• Speaking from experience, a perfectionist should live in a small house with a tiny yard or  better yet an apartment.  For every mortal, there exists a horizon of perfectability beyond which lies insanity.

• An item in News on Japan asks, why did Japanese people stop performing seppuku?  “Seppuku, a highly ritualized form of suicide that involved cutting one’s own stomach, was once part of the bushido samurai code, and considered an honorable way to die and, until the 20th century, was quite common.  So what happened?  Why did this practice die out?” Evidently, News on Japan has not heard of Darwin.

• One of these is the biggest waste of time in the Free World.  Can you guess which it is?   (A) Shaving.  (B) Raking leaves.  (C) Reading internet comments.   Answer below.

• I love the Yiddish word schmutz.  It refers to that unidentifiable organic-based debris on your face or clothes that you didn’t know was there but that you need to remove.  What I like about schmutz is that it sounds both disgusting and insignificant at the same time.

The Miracle Whip• I grew up in the 1950s and 1960s, the era of brands.  My parents had a CBS, Pepsi and Miracle Whip house.  Others lived in an NBC, Coke and Hellman’s mayonnaise house.  Before I got married, I thought Miracle Whip was mayonnaise.  It was the same color.

• My wife was interested in a spoonful of my ice cream one evening and asked what flavor it was.  I told her “Lizard Claw Delight.”  To my surprise, that did not dissuade her.

• Dinner conversation: I asked my wife what the spouse of one of our friends did for a living and she answered, “He does dog fencing.”  I said, “Like En garde, Rover?

• If I had thirty million dollars to spare and inside connections with mass media big-shots, I would create a television awards show called The Palettes.  Artists in various genres would vie for honors such as Most Expressive Portrait, Most Pretentious Installation, Starkest Abstract, Least (or Most?) Minimalist, Most Inscrutable Work (Any Genre) and Outrageous New Artist with the Most Important New York Times Review.  It would be broadcast on PBS from a third-floor loft in a converted warehouse with a leaky roof in Soho in the dead of winter.  The award trophy would be a Pollock-spattered radiator.

• Help me God to see
but when I do not,
the blame lies with me.
American Christianity.

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* The biggest waste of time in the Free World: Footnotes.
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tailingThis is my love-letter to the people who are in too much of a hurry to treat me like a person.  I was about to call you drivers but that word takes the human out of you.  You are more than a pair of headlights next to my bumper.  You are not a car, or a driver, but a person who cares about things — your boredom, your feeling of power over others, the tedium of your life — but not about me.

You cannot wait to get past me, I know that.  I know that my doing seven miles over the speed limit isn’t enough for you — otherwise, you wouldn’t be showing me the filaments in your headlights.  So you pass me, and then you move to the right lane to get around the next person, and then you zoom ahead until you are on the tail of yet another person, and when she moves aside, you speed past, then cut in front of her and exit the interstate.

You are not a driver — you are a person, responsible for your actions.  Whatever your agenda is, I didn’t sign up for it, and neither of us want me to be part of it.

Since I am good at math, let me do some of it for you.  I assume you have a 30-minute commute — 8 minutes on surface streets, 22 on the local interstate.  The average speed on the interstate is 66 mph (vs a speed limit of 60) but you feel entitled to do 72 mph.  If you maintain or beat that speed, you will shave two minutes from your 30-minute commute.

Two minutes.  The length of two signal cycles.  Two red lights.

I would like to put you, the person behind me whose nosehairs I could trim using my rearview mirror, on notice: saving two red-lights worth of your time does not justify the risk of a collision, for you or for me.  So, as you race by, I ask you to think of our fleeting freeway encounter in terms of something closer to your heart: auto insurance premiums usually go up 40% after a claim is made.  Sweetheart.

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I’ve mentioned Sydney J. Harris in a number of previous posts here (feel free to search).  In my early teens, I was enamored with his nationally syndicated column Strictly Personal and the idea of writing one like it myself someday.  In fact, my Thoughts at Large posts were named after his similarly-titled columns (where the resemblance more or less ends).

Sydney J HarrisSince I kept citing Harris as one of my inspirations, I thought it might be prudent to re-read his writing as an adult, to see if my recollections were valid.  So I ventured into his book of Strictly Personal columns from 1975 to 1981, titled Pieces of Eight for no obvious reason.  It is a compilation of short essays with pertinent thoughts-at-large inserted here and there as punctuation marks.  My thoughts (along with excerpts) follow.

• One can hardly argue with the clarity and readability of his essays.  They were just the right length for Harris to introduce an idea, make his point or observation, and then leave the stage before the endeavor grew stale.  While many bloggers — myself included — often allow opinions to turn into rants, Harris was a craftsperson with admirable discipline, as newspapers of the time demanded.

The pessimist sees only the tunnel;  the optimist sees the light at the end of the tunnel; the realist sees the tunnel and the light — and the next tunnel.
Our opinion of others depends far more than we like to think on what we believe their opinion of us is.
Most of us are incapable of arguing aboout principles without soon involving personalities.
Asked why he wrote his recent autobiography, the behaviorist [B. F. Skinner] explained simply, “In order to make people love me.”  This laudably candid reply recalls Stephen Leacock’s remark that the true title of every lecture is “How to Be More Like Me.”

• Some of the topics he covered seem dated now, as you might imagine.  The collection is in many ways a time capsule: opinions that may have been considered forward-thinking or controversial at the time now come across as conventional, even pedestrian.

Psychologically, one of the most important reasons for seeking more female leadership in national and world affairs is that a woman would not feel her womanhood was at stake if she dealt with crises in a sympathetic and conciliatory fashion.  This is not to say she always will; but it is to suggest that the man’s fear of appearing weak is not a built-in component of her nature.
Terrorists are made, not born, and are heroes to themselves, willing to die to vindicate their cause.  They can be killed, but there is no way to extinguish the past.  All of us, innocent though we may feel, must suffer for the sins of our fathers…

• What bothered me as I read Pieces of Eight is how often Harris adopted the fatherly, authoritative tone of the 1950s and 1960s and made pronouncements on what is good, what is bad, what is important and what can be dismissed — perhaps a carryover from his other role as a drama critic.  Here are some disappointing examples from the book:

Offstage, most actors and actresses are not at all the vivid and colorful figures they seem to be. Only a few are distinct individuals; the others are bland and neutral personalities with little to say, and that little is generally dull.
The contractor sent around two sullen, slack-jawed young assistants to do some repair work on the tennis court across the road.  They brought with them, inevitably, as standard equipment for the job, a powerful portable radio which kept blasting away for a full afternoon.  Call me any ugly word you will, such as snobbish or elitist, it remains my firm and unshakeable opinion that such people are as close to the moronic line as it is possible to get and still function in a social order.

This is a stance I would never emulate — I do not sit in a superior place.  I have opinions but they carry no authority of their own unless others consider them and agree.

• Looking back, Harris could be remarkably pompous at times:

If some people seem to have more good luck than others, it is mostly because a lot of what we call bad luck is determined by the contour of the personality rather than a mere accident or chance.
No other nation I know of is so thoroughly capable of laughing at itself as the English, which is one of the truest tests of a genuine civilization. While the Germans, who are so publicly radiant with gemütlichkeit, have virtually no sense of humor about themselves, as their dark history testifies.

• Like most people, the parts I liked best were the ones that said things I already thought, thereby validating them, and me:

When we are young — say, eight years old — a year represents a full one eighth of our total experience, and even more than that,  for few of us remember back to our infancies.  It is an enormous amount of time in proportion to the little we have known.  By the time we hit forty, a year is only one fortieth of our total experience.  Objectively, it is the same twelve-month segment, but subjectively it is only a small fraction of our remembrance of things past. …  And each year, of course, the amount of experience we add is decreasingly smaller in proportion to the grand total.  So it is not entirely an illusion, or the faulty mechanism of a failing mind, that year by year time seems to increase its pace.

Aphorisms may be out-of-fashion now, but that is what Sydney J. Harris was known for, and that is what he got paid for.  He still has many fans.  That said, life is not nearly so black-and-white to me as it seemed to Harris.  There are few statements about our world and its inhabitants that I would dare make as definitively as he did, day after day, in his Strictly Personal column.

What I learned from reading Pieces of Eight is that I have learned what I needed to learn from Mr. Harris, and our styles differ more than I had imagined, and it is now time for me to thank him and move on.

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